“My little daughter lieth at the point of death: I pray thee, come and lay thy hands on her, that she may be healed; and she shall live.” – Mark 5:23b
Intro: Many homes in America are suffering because of what’s called the phantom father.
The phantom father is the father who is not there, or the father whose body is there and that’s all.
I am convinced that many of the social ills and problems that plagued our nation can be traced backed to the phantom father.
But I am so glad, and thank God that there are some really good fathers out there, maybe not perfect, but definitely good.
Father…To carry the title of father is honorable and it comes with great responsibilities.
In our message today we will get to meet Jy-rus, a real man, and a real good father.
Jy-rus was also a religious man, a ruler and presiding elder in his synagogue.
He was liked and well known among the people, a man of prestige and power, but he was also a man with a very big problem.
His daughter, his little angel, his baby girl, was dying.
On this ‘Father’s Day, I want to talk about how good fathers live and what good fathers do.
Good fathers love their children.
Just like our Heavenly Father, good earthly fathers, really love their children.
Love is what love does, and it was love that drove this little girl’s father to go find Jesus.
Mark 5:22 – And, behold, there cometh one of the rulers of the synagogue, Jyrus by name; and when he saw him, he fell at his feet,
Jy-rus loved his daughter, and he was not ashamed to express that love.
His love for his daughter would not allow him to just stay home and watch his daughter to die.
His love said get up and go do something, go get Jesus.
His love said, I’ll do whatever it takes, I’ll go wherever I have to go, and I’ll pay whatever it cost to save my daughter’s life.
That’s love, a father’s love, and his daughter could see it, and feel it.
Love is not always giving a child everything they ask for.
Love is not always designer clothes or name brand shoes.
Love is not always cell phones, or on time child support payments.
Love is not always going to the game or giving a big allowance.
Love is listening and talking, and love is laughing and hugging.
Love is sitting down together and eating together, and playing together.
Love is exercising discipline and also knowing how to show mercy.
Look back at Mark 5:22…
Mark 5:22 – And, behold, there cometh one of the rulers of the synagogue, Jairus by name; and when he saw him, he fell at his feet,
Remember Jyrus was an important man in the community, a man that you would look up to and even bow down to.
But all of a sudden, the roles are reversed, the big man now finds himself kneeling and bowing down to Jesus.
Jy-rus’s love for his daughter caused him to forget about his power and position.
Love caused him to fall down at the feet of a Jewish teacher and beg him for his help.
Fathers…don’t be ashamed to express your love for your children.
Expressing your love for your children does not make you weak wimp, but it shows that you’re a real man and a wise man.
Good fathers are not ashamed to seek Jesus.
Father’s what do your children see you mostly seeking every day?
Do they only see you seeking more money and more stuff?
Do they only see you seeking to become famous, or powerful, or admired by others?
Or do they see you seriously seeking the Savior, Jesus Christ?
I know they see you going to work, and washing the car, and helping around the house, and working overtime…
But do they ever see you interacting with Lord? (Look at Mark 5:23)
Mark 5:23 – And besought him greatly, saying, My little daughter lieth at the point of death: I pray thee, come and lay thy hands on her, that she may be healed; and she shall live.
The Bible says Jyrus besought the Lord greatly, that means he went hard after Jesus.
He craved Jesus, he implored Jesus, he wanted Jesus, and he got Jesus.
Jeremiah 29:13 – And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart.
Do you hear that father’s, our Heavenly Father says that if we seek him we will find him, if we seriously seek him with our whole heart?
Notice, Jy-rus sought out Jesus for himself; He didn’t send his wife, or his brother, or his cousin, his best friend, or his pastor.
Too often daddy’s send mamas and the children to church to see Jesus
…while they stay at home and sleep, or watch the game, or wash the car, or fire up the grill, or just sit around and chill.
Jyrus went to see Jesus himself…Somethings you just have to do for yourself.
It was too personal, and too urgent, He couldn’t trust anybody else to seek Jesus for him he had to seek Jesus for himself.
A good father will teach his children how to seek God.
A good father will show his children how to seek Jesus and how to love Jesus with their whole heart.
Ephesians 6:4 – Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger [do not exasperate them to the point of resentment with demands that are trivial or unreasonable or humiliating or abusive; nor by showing favoritism or indifference to any of them], but bring them up [tenderly, with lovingkindness] in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. – AMP
It’s up to us to prepare our children to live the kind of lives that will be pleasing to God.
And we set the example by seeking the Lord in front of them every day.
Children should see their father’s seeking the Lord for strength, wisdom, peace, provision, and help.
Children should see their father’s seeking the Lord in the word, through prayer, and in worship.
We take our children to school, to the game, to the beauty salon, and to the movies.
We take our children to the barbershop, to the mall, to the dance, to practice, and to dances.
Now, let’s not forget to take them to the Lord.
Something else men…don’t be afraid or embarrassed to let your sons and daughters know that you have limitations.
Let them know that there are some things you don’t know, and that there are somethings that you cannot fix.
But, also let them know, that when you don’t know…you know where to go.
Let your children know, that you are not ashamed to seek the Lord or ask for his help.
Good fathers are not afraid to bring Jesus into their homes.
We live in a time when most true Christians are afraid to say they are.
Political correctness, and mild persecution keeps most believers on the down low, and stuck in the closet.
But not Jyrus, he went looking for Jesus, he bowed down to Jesus, he believed in Jesus, and he brought Jesus into his home.
Is Jesus welcomed in your home today, or tomorrow, or any day?
Eventually Jesus would make it to Jyrus’ neighborhood, and then Jyrus’ street, and then Jyrus’ house.
Mark 5:39 – Jesus entered the house and said to them, “Why are you crying and making so much noise? The child is not dead, only asleep.” – NCV
Jesus entered the house because he was invited to come in the house.
What would Jyrus’s friends, and neighbors, and co-workers think about Jesus being in his house?
Now more than ever we need real Christian homes – not just houses where Jesus visits on occasion, but homes where Jesus lives.
Homes where Jesus is welcomed, homes where the presence of Jesus is acknowledged, his name is honored, and his word is obeyed.
Father’s we’re the head of our homes, but the question is, is Jesus Christ the head of our lives?
When Jesus informed the crowd that little girl was only asleep and not dead, the people laugh at him.
Mark 5:40 – But they laughed at him. After he put them all out, he took the child’s father and mother and the disciples who were with him, and went in where the child was. – NIV
Two things I want us to notice in verse 40.
First, when we invite Jesus into our home, we give him full authority to take over the whole house.
Secondly, since Jesus is in charge of the whole house, he gets to decide what’s good and what’s bad, in the house.
He decides what’s right and what’s wrong in the house, and He decides what stays and what goes, in the house.
If there is anything in your home that would offend the Lord, or hinder the word of God…if so, we must get rid of it.
If there is anything in your home that’ stopping up the flow from heaven…if so, you’re going to have to get rid of it.
It may be drugs, or pornography, or jealousy, or rage, or unforgiveness, or anger, or bitterness, procrastination, laziness, inconsistency, or living in the past…
Whatever’s not right has to go today.
Jesus got rid of all the doubters, and spectators, and jokesters, and unbelievers.
After Jesus cleaned the house something amazing happened…
Mark 5:41-42 – He took her by the hand and said to her, “Talitha koum!” (which means “Little girl, I say to you, get up!”). 42 Immediately the girl stood up and began to walk around (she was twelve years old). At this they were completely astonished. – NIV
She got up immediate, instantly, promptly, right-away, and without delay.
Maybe we too can begin to see some immediate breakthroughs and some immediate blessings take place in our lives…
If we seek Jesus with our whole heart and invite him to come live with us in our homes.
Jesus wants to come live us, and He will if we allow him to.
Conclusion: A little girl received a miracle because she had a good father.
A little girl got her life back because she had a good father.
A family’s mourning and sorrow was turned into joy and gladness because a goof father was in the home.
Men, by the grace of God, let’s pledge to be good fathers.
Let’s really love our children, and seek God on behalf of our children, and never be ashamed to own Jesus before our children.